LALA Land

Regarding the various demographic groups that immigrate to the U.S., we often hear statistics about how much they earn or how successful they are. But the reality is this: they are not happy. This is why so many strive to return to their home countries for vacation—where their happiness levels increase dramatically.

You have to ask yourself why. Despite earning more than, say, white or African American populations, they are not living the kind of life you see glamorized on Instagram or Pinterest. If you ever needed evidence that America is not just a set of ideas but also something rooted in blood, this is it. This level of pragmatic truth is rarely discussed in the mainstream, but it’s extremely accurate.

Because their happiness levels are not high, many attempt to externalize causality—blaming systems, structures, or others. But the reality is that the cause is internal. This then becomes the crux and foundation for broader ideas, such as the exaggerated social engineering imposed by the Boomer generation. Rather than confront internal incongruence, society was reshaped to mask it—fueling the dramatic cultural interventions we now take for granted.

Consider for a moment the sexual marketplace. In theory, a truly multicultural society should lead to organically diverse romantic pairings and open cultural exchange. Yet, in practice, I have never encountered a man who has been able to attract and sustain meaningful relationships with high-quality partners from every major racial group—besides me (less than 1%)- organically and without status leverage or economic inducement. That says a lot.

How can one live in a multicultural society and not reap the real benefits of multiculturalism?

Data from dating apps supports this underlying tension. According to a 2014 study published in PNAS (Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences), users of dating platforms overwhelmingly show same-race preferences, even while claiming openness to diversity. For instance, Asian men and Black women tend to receive the fewest messages across all demographics, while white women and Asian women are the most messaged groups. This demonstrates a stratified preference hierarchy that undermines the very ideals of multicultural harmony.

What this reveals is a deeper psychological and cultural dissonance. If diversity were truly embraced on an interpersonal level—beyond food, festivals, and slogans—then organic cross-racial romantic connection should be more evenly distributed. The fact that it’s not suggests a deeper truth: that we are still tribal at the core, and that even in the most diverse societies, personal affinity does not automatically align with the multicultural ideal.